Thanks,LFH. We all are people of value and should never forget it. The thing is we WANT to change around our M and while we draw boundaries, of necessity we tolerate things that are difficult to swallow long term.
Someone on this site said happiness is an inside job and they are right. I guess the key really is detaching which I can do successfully for long periods. But then this little voice in my head says "This whole OP thing is soooo disrespectful". And I tend to become fixated on that. Which is what can push many a LBS to become a WAS. You begin to conclude that you are better than this and it makes you wonder what message you are sending to the WAS by enduring this type of disrespect.
Wht do we stick it out? Commitmment, love, covenant with God, determination to know in your heart that you really did try.
It becomes clear to the LBS that we are not begging for crumbs from a table but if there is to be any hope for a new M we must get the whole damn cake. A NEW R will have to be NEGOTIATED with trust,respect, accountability and fidelity on the bargaining table. And understanding that we are human and one day we may need to be on the receiving end of forgiveness and frace. So we can't hold the past over our S head.
Right now, I am thinking that my H is damned lucky to be married to me. I am a ruby and I think that anyone who trades in a gemstone for cubic zirconia will soon realize that.
