Not sure what to do

[stu321]

I used to ask her what needed to be done, but she would just reply with "you should know what needs to be done", so I stopped asking.

She doesn't like thigs being done if they are not her way. She is a perfectionist and she places alot of pressure on herself. She prides herself in making sure things are perfect where I can handle imperfections. Things can't always be perfect and we have struggled with this with our house. She gets upset when things aren't the way she wants (and I can understand why), but some of the things were impossible as they would cause issues later and because I'm not very good with my hands (I work in IT, so that should be an indication of my experience with tools), she wouldn't want to listen to what I was saying. She would say that I let others tell me how things should be done. I never did unless there was a reason for it. I would take advise from tradies as it was their area of expertise, not mine. As her father was a brick layer, she would liten to him over what I was saying. For example, when it was time to build our water tanks, they wanted to use left over bricks. A nubmer of people told me that it would be difficult and time consuming. But they oth disissed it. After months of doing nothing, and getting quotes for materials, it ended up being the same price to get pre fabricated tanks that are dropped straight into a hole in 1 day, rather than gettig 5 different trades in at different times to build the tanks.

By no meas am I perfect. We both have our issues that we each struggle with.

Apologies for rambling on, but if feels better to get things of my chest.