Sounds like a good start Stu. One thing I have been learning the hard way is that you have to make these changes for YOU not your spouse. When you do things that you think will just make her happy or get her attention, she may just see through it, not see it as genuine, and dismiss it. If you do things for you, and it brings you some new motivation or excitement in your life, that shows. Your spouse will be intrigued by that, plus it makes you happier during one of the most difficult times in your life. I am not successful at this yet myself, but I am learning this and slowly starting to make the shift.
