H decided to take a work at home/sick day because he's been fighting a cold or something all week, feels like f*** and not sleeping well. So I asked him- "What about tonight?" I don't feel like going I stayed positive- "Ok, we can do like I suggested last time. I'll go, and you can do a solo session next time if you want" (In a suspicious tone) Why are you so anxious to go by yourself? I just don't see a reason to waste a scheduled appointment. There's cans of soup in the pantry- see ya when I get home.
I think I'm glad he's not going- I do want some alone time with the MC.
H decided to take a work at home/sick day because he's been fighting a cold or something all week, feels like f*** and not sleeping well. So I asked him- "What about tonight?" I don't feel like going I stayed positive- "Ok, we can do like I suggested last time. I'll go, and you can do a solo session next time if you want" (In a suspicious tone) Why are you so anxious to go by yourself? I just don't see a reason to waste a scheduled appointment. There's cans of soup in the pantry- see ya when I get home.
I think I'm glad he's not going- I do want some alone time with the MC.
The only thing you probably could have done differently would be:
You: "What about tonight?" Him: "I don't feel like going." You: "OK. Well, I'm going; see you later."
Let him decide if and when he wants to go.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Just called the apartment complex. 2 bedroom units still available, plus they're running a special- first month free. I'll have to see how that compares to the special rate that I was quoted earlier.
If he's not gonna be there tonight, I think I'm talking about move-out plans with the MC, plus some of the deeper issues, especially the lingering resentments by both of us. I really would like to hear the MC's honest feedback on things. If H isn't there, maybe we can both be a bit more candid- I'm hoping at least.
Good luck to you. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I'm signing a lease on Saturday and opening my own accounts. I haven't told H yet, I'm gonna wait until closer to my move out date. I'm thinking hard about when that will be- D17 is having a party on 11/7, S18's b-day is 11/20 and Thanksgiving is 11/26.
It was a good conversation with the MC tonight, I'm tired so I'll post details tomorrow. Bottom line tho- there really is no other option. He'll never be satisfied with our marriage, if I stay I'll just get sucked back into the lifestyle, and the only thing I could have done different was leave sooner.
Bottom line tho- there really is no other option. He'll never be satisfied with our marriage, if I stay I'll just get sucked back into the lifestyle, and the only thing I could have done different was leave sooner.
For what it's worth, I'm sorry you're going through this.
But I have no qualms about telling someone to leave an abusive marriage, and I'm glad that you are doing so.
You deserve someone who will love you, and only you.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
