Puppy, you have given me good food for thought. The internet access is used by the whole family. The phone is another issue... Re: the pastor, I think I have decided to direct him to talk to my H directly, as I think that is who he is concerned about.... Torn, i hope you find help here... I know I have. When you feel so alone and overwhelmed, there are people who have been there and can understand like no one can. C-Bart - thanks for those thoughts. That is a good reminder and very true. Knowing my H's personality that would be a big mistake and would shut down any further progress. I am thinking very carefully about how to word things.. being able to be firm and clear but not backing in a corner. Not easy! H confirmed again today that he is coming. Had expected some last minute excuse, which I guess could still happen. We will see how tomorrow goes... wish me luck!
