I'm new wondering if this works...

[Dia]

Hope, his behavior a) is not about you, and b) is not acceptable.

Please stop beating yourSELF up for HIS issues. One of the ways abusive men justify their attacks on women is by getting the woman to agree that their anger is her fault.

It isn't.

It's his own inner demon to deal with. And he can't deal with it on his own. He's not strong enough or skilled enough, so he puts it out there on you.