Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

It was a calm discussion. She wanted to talk about the c session today, and that lead right to it. She asked what I was thinking and I told her.

I told her that I wanted a D. I said I deserved to be with someone who loved me. She said defensively "I do love you, just not the way you need to be...". I replied "I need to be with someone who wants to be with me, who can be emotionally intimate with me, who wants to have sex with me, and who can tell me honestly that they love me.". She just replied "I'm sorry"

We talked a bit about the next steps and groundrules: we are each going to consult a L, and the schedule with a mediator. We aren't goping to tell family, friends, or the kids yet. We are going to work out a schedule that allows us to spent time apart while still sharing the household and childcare workload.

We talked about moving. She doesn't want to as her friends and nascent career are here. Neither of us will be able to afford to live here.

I asked her to move into the guest room and she agreed.