Well, as I started to do yesterday, I think I'm going to take some time away from the forums for a bit. Just something I feel I have to do.
Didn't have a psych consult this week as the doc was on a business trip. Pulled through ok, but was a bit down last night, a lot of uneccessary feelings of rejection.
I also had some thoughts of XW and everything, especially "OM" after commenting on someones thread that I guess he's not really "OM" anymore, he's 'her' man, so whatever, it's an eye opener for sure and a definate signal that I need to stop looking over my shoulder, she's a big girl and needs to take care of herself from now on. And that I guess is where I stand on that and why I feel it's just time to take some time off and do the #1 job of DB, work on making me the best me I can be.
So, I'll poke my head in from time to time and make sure there aren't any dramamtic issues going on where support is needed.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Had a moral dilema for Halloween. This is rich, XW called at noon on Satruday after I had already picked up candy and stuff for the local kids that I hadn't planned on doing. Anyway, XW asks if I wanted to take the kids trick or treating as she "might have to go to the ER because she and a friend fumigated themselves dying their hair the night before" and feels so sick she didn't want to drive to loserville and the kids were already upset since they couldn't go there". Yeah, that tipped the b/s meter hard. Then while trying to cover her tracks and keep her 'story' gong she slipped and mentioned a party later on at night she wasn't sure if she'd be well enough to attend.
This was of course received as, 'come take tha kids trick or treating and then take them home with you so I can go out'. How dumb does she think I am? I said I'd think about it, she wrote it off as "c'mon it's tradition" of whcih later on after soaking it all in, I texted, "sorry, family traditions died 6/9/09, hence 'loserville".
Other than that, all is well on the western front.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
I said I'd think about it, she wrote it off as "c'mon it's tradition" of whcih later on after soaking it all in, I texted, "sorry, family traditions died 6/9/09, hence 'loserville".
Other than that, all is well on the western front.
Nice! She can't have her cake and eat it too. My XW couldn't pay her bills and still complains about not being able to make ends meet. Maybe if she would'nt go out and behave like she's a 17 year old she'd be better off. Of course, it's my credit that gets effected.
Formerly SGfan M:38 W:33 M:8 yrs T:10 yrs Bomb: Dec '08 Separated: 4/18/09 Divorce: 8/28/09 XW Affair began: April 08
Waitaminute here. By "tradition" did she mean you taking the kids out for "trick or treats" was tradition -- or did she mean her dumping the kids on you so she can go out partying was her "tradition"?
Either way, wow, she's a typical WAS -- wants all the benefits to her own decisions but none of the consequences.
