Gotta Keep Trying 2

[Kemper]

LFH,

Really read up on the Cognitive Dissonance as GIMA mentioned. I will say that dropping the rope happens at different times for each person. It just so happens that GIMA and I dropped the rope around the same time and basically after having a R conversation with our W's.

I am not saying to go have an R conversation with your W and you will drop the rope but there is something that just switches and I wish I could tell you how or when, but I will tell you that you will know it when it happens.

I am sure I will still have good and bad days, but I know I will have more good days than bad ones. I no longer fear my W or D. I will always be a huge part of my sons lives and nobody can take that away from me while I am alive on this earth.

I will say as hard as it might be to work on focusing on the positive and removing any negative thoughts, feelings, etc. There is a great page on livestrong.org about detaching and it is worth the read. However, make sure you are lovingly detaching and not going to the extreme where you end up being cold and unloving.