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Don't read into it. Don't mean nothing. Enjoy your time with your children. Always speak positive. Eventually you will start to belive it...


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You don't need to say anything else. "thanks bye". Other that than all about the kids if it is important. Right now it is better for you to look happy and confident and what she is doing isn't killing you. Project a strong man and she will notice that more than anything you can say.


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Thats true. I came out with abig smile on my face and welcomed the children. Ive lost over 20 pds since she left. Im sure she will notice at some point.


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I bet you notice the 20 pds off. I lost 32 pds... I am back at the weight I had when I was in my late twenties. Playing sports is easier now. Your just getting into your fighting weight smile When your losing weight like this. It is very important to take your daily V. If you are not make sure you go buy some and take it daily. Also make sure you are drinking a ton of water. You will need it to counter the depression. 8 cups a day. And if you do not feel like eating. Eat small meals through out the day. Apple here... small bowl of almonds and walnuts later... banana and a glass of juice, yougart and cereal... you get the picture. If you did not eat healthy before its a good time to start. Your body will thank you and who knows you might even enjoy your new diet.

But diet is very important.

Also remember it is important if you notice yourself. Do not concern yourself with what she notices...

Enjoy your evening with your children. No posting here while you have time with them.


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Its been one of those days here. Ive been feeling really strong but today it seemed like it hit me. I was by myself and I didnt do it in front of w. She just picked up the kids and I wont see them again til Tues. I will miss my beautiful daughters first halloween. She is going to my cousins to spend time with them and there kids on Halloween. My heart is aching! Why is she doing this to our family??


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That is definitely the most difficult part of this separation - the kid(s).

You just need to find something to take your mind off of it.


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Yeah but its not just about the kids. Its our entire family. She was very close to my parents as well. Know she is just a stranger...


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No smiles or laughter. All business. Here to get the kids. Hi and Goodbye...I wish I could read her mind


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its been 4 weeks since w dropped the bomb that she is leaving. Its been two weeks on method last resort. To this point there has been no movement whatsoever. I continue to work on me and spend as much time with my kids. She just picked up the kids and as usually cant look me in the face. Is it cause she hates me so much or guilt?


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Originally Posted By: ugetvince
its been 4 weeks since w dropped the bomb that she is leaving. Its been two weeks on method last resort. To this point there has been no movement whatsoever. I continue to work on me and spend as much time with my kids. She just picked up the kids and as usually cant look me in the face. Is it cause she hates me so much or guilt?


There's no way to know. And DBing will take more than 2 weeks, unfortunately.

Some relationships get well into D proceedings before there's a turnaround; my parents were actually divorced for about 10 months, about 10 years ago.

If you are happy and upbeat every time she sees you, she will eventually come to see you as different from before the bomb. Bonus points for loving your kids and not disrespecting your wife in front of them.

If you can keep from pressuring her about R talk, she come get around to asking you what is up.


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8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

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