look at what the woodwork has yielded...yay.....

Life is different now folks. There is an overwhelming feeling of freedom and peace that overcomes a person when they no longer have dead weight continuously hanging over them like a storm cloud.

Carrie came by the house on Tuesday night to drop off a halloween bag from her parents for Tawny. Tawny and her went out on the front porch to "talk". Long story short 20 minutes later I saw Carrie break into tears and leave.
The last thing she said to Tawny is "you are so beautiful" and then she started crying and left. Her weight is still squarely on her shoulders.

The conversation was basically a role reversal. My teenager playing the role of the adult and my ex-wife playing the role of lost and confused teenager. I am very proud of my little girl. She told her mom that she needs to stop talking. She told Carrie to go home and write out what she believes she has done to hurt Tawny and what she believes Tawny has done to hurt her. She told Carrie that she would do the same. She told her mother that it is obvious that talking is going nowhere and there needs to be another way.

For those who have followed my saga, this is a huge step. This is an amazing act by a child who has been put through hell by her mother and yet amazingly perseveres and plays the role of the bigger person.
Will Carrie come around for her daughter???? I doubt it, but we shall see.

School is going well, I am in my finals week for my third set of classes. This is by far the toughest thing I have done in a very long time.

The dating front, virtually void right now. It will come in time I am sure, but for now, I have more important things to deal with. Of course everyone I know is trying to "set me up", yuck........

Anyway, life is getting better. the silver lining is sure easier to see today..... Take that to heart those of you who are dreading it, it is a tough thing to get through, but sometimes divorce can be a blessing in disguise.

Ian


M- 48
XW- mentally 17
KIDS- 3- S19, D23, D28
Married- 17 years
Divorce final- 10/16/09