New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

She will see what you are doing with the kids. She will hear about your life from conversations with the kids. She will see, the information will be there if she wants to notice.

She is thinking. She is processing. She needs to withdraw to do that, most of us draw inwards to change, kind of like a butterfly in its cocoon.

What she will decide when she emerges is unknown.

You can be the person she married. You can be a great father. Those all will be considered in the decision, but she is the one who will make the decision.

The only control you have over her decision is if you decide to end it first. And you are in for the long haul. So, you have to give her room and time to process, and set yourself up for the best odds. Which you are doing a great job of.