If you said you were going to be the bigger person, then you needed to be. If you threatened not to be the bigger person, then you aren't living up to what you said you would be. MLC or not, I'd call you on it.
And you actually can push someone away with your attitude and actions. If you're going to bounce all over the place like a manic/depressive with a 15 minute switch, how can anyone know how to act around you, least of all your husband, who may or may not be in an MLC.
These things you deserve, do you deserve them simply because you exist? Do you demand them?
I know you're pi$$ed, everyone here gets pi$$ed at what happened to them, but most realize that they also played a part of their marriages going tit$ up.
If your husband has always been a selfish POS, then walk away in good concious, but if this is not the man you fell in love with and married, then something went wrong in his head. But you're not going to stick around to be there when he gets better.
If we deserved to be happy, vegetables would make us fat and candy would make us thin.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
