Just want my H back

[pearlharbr]

I don't know that it's exactly the opposite of DBing, but there is the route espoused by gucci, robx, and others:

YOU become the WAS.

Why do you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Why would you waste your fabulous self on someone who doesn't appreciate you to the fullest?

Read up on what gucci advises people to do.

As much as I wanted to make BF pull the trigger on breaking up and all that entails, I got fed up and decided his being a coward was infringing upon my life. So I kicked him out and got the ball rolling.

Also read Dobson's book Love Must Be Tough. I can't stand Dobson's FOTF organization but this is a good read.

No matter how it turns out in the end, you will feel good that you did everything you could to salvage the R and you banish the fear by taking action to do what is best for you.