I guess I really am clueless. It wasn't meant to be manipulative. It seems like I can't say anything without it coming across as manipulative.
Kevin
You said it! Actually, I don't think it matters what you are saying it will be perceived as manipulative by your W. So the solution is not to say anything.
Even your actions will be seen by her as more of the same. The only counter to that is consistency. That takes time and you have plenty of that. Slow and steady my friend.
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
