Courtney, do you feel like you have learned better communication now? I think that its very common for people to come out of these situations much better equipped to deal with communication and to have really learned a lot. Ive even heard some people say that they dont regret that this happened, because they would have never become a better spouse if it hadn't.
Im at a point where I can't get my D over with soon enough, but I absolutely feel like I have come out of it ready to have a much more successful relationship next time... And one thing that I noticed when I saw my STBXH again, I realized that I really didnt like him very much anymore! Hes kind of lame!
He will come out of his fog, and he will see exactly what he has done, but where are you going to be when that happens? Theres no guarantee it will happen anytime soon. So your right, patience and time, and now that you have changed your behavior, are you willing to set a new time line? Maybe now you can give him 3 months or something like that? If your not, I dont think that anyone would judge you, this is your M and your choice!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
