I have another question... open to anyone's thoughts on this... Our pastor called the other day inquiring how we are doing. I am not surprised. H has a leadership role at our church and we have hardly attended in months. I've gone with the kids (I think only once) but H never wants to go (gee, I wonder why). Ironically, OW also attends that church sometimes. People know my H and OW work together and are "friends" but I am sure no one knows there has been an EA.
I was caught off guard by pastor's call and made it sound like all is fine, just busy. Should I ask to meet with pastor and tell him what is going on?
H has kept pressure on me to keep everything quiet b/c he has a very high profile job (as do I) and we are both very well known and respected in our community. He very well could lose his job if this was known, and the financial security for me and kids would be threatened. That scares me enough to keep quiet. When I think about all this I feel I am on the verge of a panic attack. Seriously... I can hardly stand the anxiety at times...
