Got it Kevin, and I'm not just changing to get my H back. I'm changing now because I want to be closer to God and do his will. So thank you so much for the advice. I know I need to change for me first and that is what I'm doing. I want to be closer to God and to be a better person than I ever was before, and isn't that showing my H that I love him or no? God wants us to let everyone we love to show them that and to let them know doesn't he? Even love thy enemies?