For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[courts0818]

bluerain,
You are right...it's back to not telling him anything unless it has to do with our DD. I was doing so good at that, but the whole NY thing kinda got me off track. I found myself engaging in a little too much converation with him - no talks about the R, but still I probably seemed too interested in him. As for the sex thing - it didn't happen the night before I left. He's asked a few times lately and I've turned him down. Why in the world he thinks I would want to after his behevior is a mystery to me.

That's the question...will he ever snap out of his fog and stop acting like the cowardly lion? Will he ever actually believe there is hope for us? Will he get it out of his insane, fat head that positive changes can happen in a marriage? Who knows...but like you suggested...back to GAL and focusing on me and taking another looksie at DR.

I know...I know...patience and time. I just get so caught up in the fact that his bs has been going on for so flipping long! The problem is that I only recently started dealing with it better and now I want immediate results cause the sucker has had long enough!

BFF's H wasn't trying get out of the doghouse - he does super thoughtful things like that all the time. But, they do bicker way toooooo much. Funny how my H and I didn't bicker or argue much. I just nagged too much and when there was an issue we chose not to sit down like 2 educated, civilized, mature adults and work through it. Instead we ignored it and let resentment build...so unhealthy. We never learned how to fight, communicate and resolve things.