What to do, what to do?

[courts0818]

Lulu,
Ugh...I'm sorry you are having a tuff time today. When I read the comment your H made, my heart broke for you. : ( I know it is MUCH easier said than done, but try to keep in mind that yet again, that was a comment made by your H while in his fantasy fog. Of course that does not make it okay, but the fact that he even said it totally shows that he was falling hard for the grass is greener theory. Which is like the biggest load of bs that exists. Um...problems just don't go away with a different person - eventually the same stuff comes up over and over again regardless of who they are with.

That comment is proof positive that he wasn't looking at things from a realistic standpoint. And I know you know that...I'm just saying. I don't understand how a WAS can imagine how great life could be with someone else while totally forgetting how great life once was with their spouse! It's like they let the great times with their spouses just fall out of their heads. How can someone (and I don't just mean your H - my H does the exact same thing) become so delusional and naive?

You have seen my recent posts. I came back from NY on a ball busting mission - so you know I feel the same way and I have those same questions - what on earth am I fighting for.

Maybe like me - you are exhausted from the fight, you know you deserve better, you are tired of feeling like you've been run over by a truck each time you hear hurtful words, you are so ready to be done with this - BUT, deep down even though he's hurt you more than you could have ever imagined, you love him. Your fighting for the commitment you made, you are honoring the vows you took, you are doing everything you can to keep your family together - for you, for him and for your precious little girls. I know you are Lulu, cause I'm doing the same. I often question why - Why am I still here? Will it ever get better? Will we ever be happy again? Will I ever be able to trust him and forgive him? Would I be better off without him? The questions could go on and on.

I think you are here and still fighting bc in your heart (and for me too) you still feel like it's the right thing to do. What do you think?

Sending my hugs! Wish we lived close so we could go have some drinks tonight and let other men find themselves infatuated with us! : )