Business versus matters of the heart is a bit like comparing apples to oranges.
There was a guy in management of my company that tried to make a power play and become president. He said that his first task upon becoming president was to fire me and another co-owner (to free up shares) and bring in a friend to take my job. I got word of this and sent him an email telling him to he was an idiot and to go have sex with himself. He came to apologize to me the next day and I told him to get lost and leave me alone. We fired him shortly after that. I have no reason to forgive him or ever allow him to work with me again.
However, my wife betrayed me to the emotional core. I did not feel like telling her to go to hell. We still had children to raise.
But, you make a great point Bill about the responsibility being on Kalni's H in helping her understand why he strayed and convincing her beyond a shadow of a doubt that it would never happen again. He also needs to open his heart more to express his total love for her. Why she has to guide him to do this shows a major flaw with the man. A good man should not need guidance by his wife in showing and proving to her his love.
