Standing by, supporting you... I am glad that you are making the effort and I understand wanting to be heard. That is where a good counselor's help could come in. They can structure a time/place to let it all out, like someone else said in a certain forum you share the hurt and then at other times you just spend time together reconnecting. Because obv. as you already stated there has to be times of good interactions to rebuild, but there also has to be a time to air out what came between you...
