Seems to me that a really important question is "Why?"

Something happened that allowed this man to choose to be an adulterer, to break his vows to you, to walk away from his family to be with another.

I understand not wanting to be beat up about your failings on a regular basis. That's reasonable and fair. Especially if the two of you are openly choosing to try to recover this marriage.

But the other side of the coin is that the one who was betrayed needs a reason to believe that what he chose to do was an aberration for him - a one time occurence that happened for a REASON. And hopefully a reason that can be fixed so as not to occur again in the future.


If a friend and I went in to business together, both of us having a shared vision that we thought would be profitable and successful, and a few years in to our joint venture he decided to sell me out and shared our plan with another, allowing that person to take away part of what we would have accomplished in our partnership... Well, it would be a long, long time before I would be able to trust that person again. And I would be extremely hesitant about allowing that person back in to my trust unless there was a really good explanation for why he did what he did.


And that's just business...



Blessings,

Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."