Yikes! Need help, please.

[TrentC]

Okay, thanks.

I told him I had to go while he was still talking. I was proud of myself. lol

[Super Girl]

Ooookay... He keeps emailing me about the children. He just said if he had to forget about them while be builds a life so he can later repair the relationship and be a better dad, that is what he will do?

Poor kids.

[TrentC]

Ooookay... He keeps emailing me about the children. He just said if he had to forget about them while be builds a life so he can later repair the relationship and be a better dad, that is what he will do?

Poor kids.

Don't respond. I can't see any good coming out of that exchange.

[Super Girl]

Okay, I won't. I really think he's a lunatic. I need to figure out why he is important to me. I want my kids to have an intact family, but part of me things we're better off on our own. It's so peaceful without his drama.

[SpinFree]

open up that can can of worms.

Oh! The mental image! So scarring, yet so appropriate for the image of a cheating spouse.

Spinfree

[Super Girl]

What should I do about my kids calling H? They call and they always cry and ask him to come back?

[TrentC]

What should I do about my kids calling H? They call and they always cry and ask him to come back?

Good question. What do they know about the situation?

Perhaps their dad should come over and explain why he is leaving. You can make sure that he doesn't try to paint it as a "we" decision or foist the blame off on you.

[Super Girl]

I told them Dad was going through some adult stuff and needed to be gone for a bit. He plans to tell them he had to go because he can't get along with me.

[Super Girl]

Actually, I didn't say for a bit. I said needed to be gone. They asked when he was coming back, and I said I didn't know. I didn't know if I should say "he's not". I also don't want to tell them to hope he comes back, and then he doesn't.

[TrentC]

I told them Dad was going through some adult stuff and needed to be gone for a bit. He plans to tell them he had to go because he can't get along with me.

Fair enough. Just make sure that they understand that this is his choice to leave, not yours or "ours". That you are willing to work things out, but that he needs to want that as well.