She calls my moods as being truly abusive and emotionally raping of her. I just do not get it, I get so confused - I try and say the right thing and it is taken as me being self important or not connected or whatever. I just truly do not know the best way to make things right. I know she is suffering and so burdened, but I do not know how to make it better.
Well, some of that has to be her responsibility, although you could be encouraging of her doing things for herself, such as do you watch the kids for a night or afternoon each week and give her a break and some time to herself?
Also, I don't know you; do you yell at her or insult her often? Then, you should work on that. From your posts I've read though it seems almost as if she is the one that is yelling/insulting/emotionally abusive. I had that in my marriage, and I do think it contributed to my depression also.
