Am I at this stage?

[TrentC]

Thanks JAK, I'm am officially leaving in one hour on my 2 1/2 hour drive to the nearest city from my home to get the book from their bookstore! Yay! So excited. I think we all know what my plans will be tonight! Read, read, read.!

I should make you do a book report for me...

About the whole boundary thing, it was a huge issue last week as he was putting me in a position where boundaries needed to be made. But its been a week and we have had minimal contact, and he hasn't put me in a position at all to set boundaries. No dropping in, no "showing up", no want for any intimacy whatsoever.

Setting boundaries isn't about putting the brakes on his libido. Those boundaries still need to be set regardless.

I feel like we're going backwards.

Not necessarily; he's going to swing back and forth while he tries to figure things out.

I was looking forward to setting some boundaries just because of the feeling that he was giving me more than he has given me in 3 weeks. But nothing. So I'm here in limbo land...trying to figure out this whole detaching thing. Hopefully the book gives me some insight.

I expect a 5-page report in my inbox by Monday morning.

Question: Its Halloween sat. and we have agreed to take the boys trick or treating. I have been invited to a party afterwards, should I go, or should I take the chance he may want to spend some time with me that night?

*headdesk*

You go to the party.

It's GALing, you said he's noticed the difference since you've been GALing, so why wouldn't you go?

The only way you are going to get what you want is when he initiates the R talk, and says something to the effect of "I've been giving this a lot of thought, and I want to try to work things out." Until he does something that obvious, assume that he is still thinking about leaving and live your life accordingly.