Am I at this stage?

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Thanks JAK, I'm am officially leaving in one hour on my 2 1/2 hour drive to the nearest city from my home to get the book from their bookstore! Yay! So excited. I think we all know what my plans will be tonight! Read, read, read.!

About the whole boundary thing, it was a huge issue last week as he was putting me in a position where boundaries needed to be made. But its been a week and we have had minimal contact, and he hasn't put me in a position at all to set boundaries. No dropping in, no "showing up", no want for any intimacy whatsoever. I feel like we're going backwards. I was looking forward to setting some boundaries just because of the feeling that he was giving me more than he has given me in 3 weeks. But nothing. So I'm here in limbo land...trying to figure out this whole detaching thing. Hopefully the book gives me some insight.

Question: Its Halloween sat. and we have agreed to take the boys trick or treating. I have been invited to a party afterwards, should I go, or should I take the chance he may want to spend some time with me that night?