Ugh! This would be so much easier without kids. He just called to see how our son did last night, and when I told him my son literally slept on top of me because he didn't want me to leave, my H got mad and said I don't want the details. Why ask then? Did he expect me to say things are hunky dory?
Yes, he did.
He's probably thinking "the kids will be okay with this once the divorce is final". Don't shield him from the consequences of his actions, but you don't need to rub his nose in it either.
I think your response was just fine.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement