You are so right. I have tried over the past 2 months to focus just on myself and while for the most part, I have done pretty well, I still couldn't help but feel angry and frustrated and H. Plus I am also "fixer" so me not being able to "help" him was frustrating for me as well.
Right now I have a lot of anger issues dealing with my marriage and H and think I need to focus on those things and becoming a much better person. I KNOW I deserve to be happy and so now I will try to begin my search towards that direction, wherever it may lead.
Thanks again for your response....It made me feel better and actually step back and take a look at what I need to do now.
