That is so true - I can not make her change. It is a struggle in patience, but I truly believe that the best thing will happen for all - I just hate going through the pain, guilt, worry for the children, etc. I also get so confused on how she can not see that there is something for her to work on. That maybe some of my "checking out" is reactionary to her inputs. I do not say these things becuase it does not work to accomplish my goal - but it still confuses the heck out of me.

I also wanted to apolagize for hijacking your thread - thank you for your help and thoughts!


Me 35
W 37
M 10yrs
Seperated 5-23-09
Back in house 8-27-09
Looming seperation again 10-26
Kids: S8, D7