I think this part of MLC would be easier if H wasn't living at home, in fact I wish he wasn't. I think he'd re-appreciate that he hates living alone. He'd re-appreciate all that I do for him and our family.
Would it be easier? In some ways, yes.
As far as his appreciating all you do? It wouldn't necessarily happen with him gone.
Just be careful what you wish for.
I get that you work 40+ hrs a week and it sux that you do all the shuttling etc. The fact that he sees it as passive/aggressive would make me step back and re-evaluate what I was asking and how.
I get the "real job" thing. I was self-employed for several years. It doesn't matter how you see it, the fact that he's telling you how he sees it gives you the chance to approach it differently.
Perhaps you could approach him with differnt options for ways to be helpful.
Since he offered with cooking etc before, perhaps he would be more willing to go that route.
I know it's tough and stressful and while they are at home you never get a break. My H isn't at home and you know what? I still never get a break (my kids live with me). The difference is the stress level in the house. You have more power than you realize though.
