P.S. I think you might have covered this before, but why do you eat in your room with your door closed? Your heart and emotions are doing VERY well, so I don't think interaction with your H set you back in any way, and this just makes you look "hunkered down" and defensive, IMHO.
Thanks for this outside perspective, it's exactly what I need to help me navigate my course. I think I pulled back this week for 1) to look more busy with my own things, especially in my job searching, showing that I'm seriously trying to find a way to move on and out of our house as soon as possibly can be done. 2) I think I have been sort of punishing him for the Saturday stunt of the drop by with "friend". I have to remind myself that it's not my job to punish him for his actions, which will be useless and not have much effect anyways at this point. I think I am struggling with what is appropriate to show as a consequence of a boundary violation (if indeed it was one) and maybe have mistaken my going darker and pulling back for that as well...???
But I completely agree with you, now being brought to my attention, all the prior interaction has been positive and has actually helped me in the projection of my more happy and friendly self.
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
