Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

Well Grace its one good day then one not-so-good...My patience is wearing thin at times and although I thought I was doing pretty well not reacting -I sure reacted last night.

The weather here is pretty snowy-kids have had two snow days in a row(which is a rarity!) and H doesn't do well in the wintertime anyway(SADD). H is self-employed but works at an office nearby in a professional building. He can stay home and work if he wants. H is very touchy about anyone thinking he doesn't have a legitimate job(He does, he's a financial planner/investment manager)-he says this has always been an issue between us since he became self-employed. H feels that when I ask him to help shuttle the kids or take them to appointments that I am not respecting him or his job.

My take is that I do pretty much everything at home(cooking/cleaning/laundry) and hold down a 40+ hour/week job. I don't ask him for much help and when I do I try to make it easy on his schedule and certainly can do it myself if he is busy with clients.

Before the MLC H seemed to pitch in much more and even has said for awhile he tried cooking meals and cleaning more so I would have more time to spend with him on the weekends...this went over my head b/c he'd spend the weekend in his home office at our old house and I would think he was busy with work...

In any case...I'd told H I needed to schedule the girls a doctor appointment and checked if the time worked with his schedule. last night I reminded him the appointment was today and he went off about the respect thing. I said I'd be Ok taking off work and shuttling the kids to and from for their appointment. H said I was being passive aggressive and he thought that was just 'snotty"! I'm sorry but I wanted to laugh-
I was being flexible! I was being the adult! I was being the parent! I just stopped myself and walked out of the room.

So to sum up my long vent. Things are still very much up and down. I'm getting worn out.

I think this part of MLC would be easier if H wasn't living at home, in fact I wish he wasn't. I think he'd re-appreciate that he hates living alone. He'd re-appreciate all that I do for him and our family.