As for the day of the move...I'm limited on what I can do. I want to be there to make sure W doesn't take anything we didn't agree on.
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I'd strongly suggest that you have a trusted male friend do this. Just "house-sit" for you to look out for your interests. If your wife asks why, tell her "I'm more comfortable doing it this way," and that's it. Maybe add a "he knows what's mine and what's yours, and he'll make sure to stay out of your way, don't worry."
