Start making plans of how you can turn that house into your "man cave" and decorate it how you want it instead of how your W prefered it. Take down the frilly stuff and put up manly things. Take pictures of her down and replace them with something else. Make positive plans and don't focus on negative.
Do you have a buddy you could make plans to have over the day of your W's move? Do you like to cook? You could be cooking something for you guys to eat when he gets there....that would give you an opportunity to look busy, upbeat, and somewhat mysterious. Plus, you won't have to suddenly be alone after she leaves.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I already have some plans of how I'm going to redecorate. All pics of W are coming down immediately. The rest will be a gradual process since I don't want to make any drastic changes right away. I want to maintain a level of normalcy for my S.
As for the day of the move...I'm limited on what I can do. I want to be there to make sure W doesn't take anything we didn't agree on. And I'll most likely be watching our S. I'll try to keep busy...maybe I'll have my S help me rearrange my bedroom furniture.
It's going to very awkward. I don't know if there will be an "official" goodbye...or maybe she'll just leave& that will be it. Who knows.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Hi eTrain. I'm new here and our story is similar. My W left July 17, we have a 5yr old son. It's been very hard. In addition, I miss my son very much when I'm not with him. W thinks he is having a hard time adjusting so she set up to have her and I meet with a child counselor to advice us on what to do to make the transition easier for our son. This really breaks my heart.
What are you doing to maintain a level of normalcy for you S?
Do you have a buddy you could make plans to have over the day of your W's move? Do you like to cook? You could be cooking something for you guys to eat when he gets there....that would give you an opportunity to look busy, upbeat, and somewhat mysterious. Plus, you won't have to suddenly be alone after she leaves.
Why not have a couple of your buddies over, and y'all help her to move out QUICK. Then turn it into an afternoon party / BBQ then a wicked Halloween party. Costumes. Girls in Costumes!
Originally Posted By: etrain
Seriously, it's Thursday & I'm getting a little bummed thinking about the reality of living alone & being a 39 year old single guy.
BAH! HELL! CHANGE YOUR WAY OF THINKING!
Its kinda last minute make it a toga party. Girls in Togas!
Hi eTrain. I'm new here and our story is similar. My W left July 17, we have a 5yr old son. It's been very hard. In addition, I miss my son very much when I'm not with him. W thinks he is having a hard time adjusting so she set up to have her and I meet with a child counselor to advice us on what to do to make the transition easier for our son. This really breaks my heart.
What are you doing to maintain a level of normalcy for you S?
I'll try to keep his daily "routine" the same....dinner times, bedtimes, etc. Besides that, I suggested to W that we plan "visits" after she moves out...and she agreed. So on days W has him, I'll stop over her place to visit S for an hour or so...and W will do the same when I have him. That way he'll still see both of us almost every day. I'm not sure how long we'll keep that up, but we plan on trying it in the very beginning...so his transition will be more gradual.
If there's anything else you could suggest, please share. This isn't going to be easy so I'll take all the help I can get.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
As for the day of the move...I'm limited on what I can do. I want to be there to make sure W doesn't take anything we didn't agree on.
e,
I'd strongly suggest that you have a trusted male friend do this. Just "house-sit" for you to look out for your interests. If your wife asks why, tell her "I'm more comfortable doing it this way," and that's it. Maybe add a "he knows what's mine and what's yours, and he'll make sure to stay out of your way, don't worry."
Do you have a buddy you could make plans to have over the day of your W's move? Do you like to cook? You could be cooking something for you guys to eat when he gets there....that would give you an opportunity to look busy, upbeat, and somewhat mysterious. Plus, you won't have to suddenly be alone after she leaves.
Why not have a couple of your buddies over, and y'all help her to move out QUICK. Then turn it into an afternoon party / BBQ then a wicked Halloween party. Costumes. Girls in Costumes!
