I've been dealing with all this for about 3 years and I still don't really know if my H is MLC or WAS. At this point (for me) it doesn't matter, but I remember when it did, b/c I thought there was more of a chance if he was MLC. Is that what you're really asking?
The reason I don't concern myself with which it is anymore is b/c I realized that what I've learned to look for in a situation really determines mostly what I see. It's like I'm a scientist and I have a hypothesis, so now what do I do? I go about looking for data to support my theory. I could find (probably) just as much data that didn't support it, if I was looking for that.
I'm a little wordy this morning (sorry about that), but the bottom line is. I have set goals and I keep taking steps from where I am to get to where I want to be. I can choose to modify the steps I take based on my results, but like you've heard ad nauseum, you can only control yourself.
Does she sound more like she's following the script? From what I've read, I'd say yes. What does that mean to you in terms of how and what you plan to do to fulfill your own personal goals?
