Hopefully I can put this out here in a way that makes sense. About a week ago, I was out socializing with my husband and some friends, everything seemed normal.
Prior to that, he told me that he wanted to make a better effort to make some friends (he was always home), and I told him that was a good idea. He started hanging out with some co-workers. I really didn't have a problem with that. Sometimes, because he works far away, he would stay at one of his co-workers homes rather than drive late at night. I also agreed with that.
One week later, he proclaims that he is done with the marriage. It feesl a little MLC to me, but who knows? We have 4 children (oldest is 11).
I asked him if he was willing to go to counseling, and he said no. About 2 weeks ago, he said that his kids were most important to him and he would do anything to make sure that they were happy.
I told him I would take the kids and go to my parents, but later decided that he should go. It's too hard for me to deal with limited space and 4 kids. I made arrangements for him to go to my parents for a bit. My parents live very near by.
He hasn't seen the kids in several days, they don't want to see him. He avoids going home to my parents until as late as possible. He hangs out at work, which I know is true because my son has called him at his desk.
Two days ago he texted me and asked if he would be allowed to come with us for Trick or Treat and to a party my friend is having. I told him he was welcome if he wanted to come. He said ask the kids if they wanted thim to go. I really didn't think that was a good idea, so I didn't ask. I haven't told him I don't plan to ask. I was gonna wait to see what happened.
I have no plans to contact or speak to him in any way, other than helping my son call him to say goodnight.
