Save my marriage to w she is moving on

[TrentC]

But with that being said ive went thru all the same things and would never have considerd just leaving.
Life is a challenge and I also wasnt happy everyday but I choose to continue to live and try to make my life better.

There's nothing productive that can come out of this line of thinking. You can analyze your spouse's behavior for days, even weeks -- as I'm sure many of us on here can attest to -- and not get an answer.

You may get an answer down the road, when she is willing to talk about the relationship and work on it. But saying "I would have handled it differently" would be a bad way to go, IMO.

You and your wife are different people, and you will process pain and disappointment differently. That's going to be one of the tricks to piecing your relationship together; learning how to meet her needs better, and her learning how to meet yours better.

This isn't going to be an easy road, and it isn't going to be a quick recovery. She didn't just decide out of the blue to leave you, and she's not going to turn around and say everything is okay one day.