Honestly, I have no idea what it is. I would find it hard to believe that it was an affair, but I bet everyone who has been there would have said that prior to knowing.
Maybe that is why she was always so sure I was having one, even though I wasn't.
Anyway, I am honestly not thinking about it too much. I talked it over with a fellow dad going through divorce who did have that problem (21 year old marriage, W had a 21 year old boyfriend!), but he also knows my W and said he doubted it was the case for me; but added that he doubted it was the case for him as well. :-)
I'm not going to over analyze it. We'll see what it is on Wed...maybe; it's her call.
Sandi, I may stumble on Wed, I may get punched in the gut and kicked in the teeth, but you know what, I will bounce back. How long it takes, I am not sure. I do know I will be okay and have my friends available to support me right afterwards as well.
I have to say though, I haven't been fair to my W in the last few years. While what she is doing may not be right, and two wrongs don't make a right, maybe it will help her to let her anger go to put me through hell. I'm not a doormat and neither is she; I'll tolerate a lot, but I do have limits...I'm just not sure what they are right now. I won't show anger (well, let's just say that depends on the revelation...an affair, okay; one of the kids isn't mine...I'll be angry). Honestly, it could be something as simple as a habit or trait she never mentioned to me that I am simply unaware bothers her.
