My W is doing something similar with my D (her step-D). She acts like she really cares but when push comes to shove she doesn't want to put the legwork in. She never enquiries how my D is, how her first day back at school was (that was today) or how her Dr's appointments go (one on Monday).
It get's to a stage where you think, what really is the point anymore of trying to keep things together for the WAS and your kids.
I agree with bluerain and karen43. This isn't about them being good women / parents. It's about them showing others that they are. Once the D is done, you will see that rapidly disappearing as they have nothing more to prove.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"