I have thought about this too. I've seen time and time again my W overreact and burn bridges and then, no matter what, not go back on a comment or apologize for being wrong.
Even if my W runs out of money, becomes miserable sitting at home watching movies alone or getting drunk in dive bars, that she won't turn back to our M.
That would be admitting she was wrong in the first place and she just doesn't do that. She's had self-esteem issues her whole life and being right is just so important to her.
This struck a real chord with me. I was asking my W just on Friday to try and fight to see my D (her step-D) and she just wouldn't do it. I kept thinking why she wouldn't put herself out there, open up and fight for something she wants.
But I realise now that it's not about that. It's about her admitting that what she did was wrong and admitting that she broke our family up. She would never ever do that. And that's the crux here. How long do I wait for a woman to come back to me and basically admit, not in words but in actions, that she was wrong and she made a mistake?
What do we do with these spouses to give them enough confidence to do that?
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
