Just been catching up on your thread. First off I hope you are well and that your neck gets better, make sure you get that seen to.
All extremely positive signs from your H Cas. To ask you to his place is a huge step on his part, he is certainly being quite warm towards you now and I feel he is starting to reach out to you, albeit slowly, but it is a huge turnaround from some months ago.
Yes, please get your neck and possible reason for being pale checked out. I am worried about the pale look. Could be a variety of things.
Your H inviting you into his place is soooooo tremendously huge. It is a sure sign of trust. You were right on. Kudos!!!
I love it that you and D brought him back some take-out and he accepted with grace.
Things are not only different from a few months ago, last week as well!!!!
Keep doing what you are doing.....right now it's working.
I see things right now as very good.
I assume your week is going quite well, hope it continues.
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
Hi Oz, great to hear from you. I always look forward to hearing what you have to say because I think some of the behaviours your H was exhibiting are very similar to those I have experienced. And, it's great to hear the perspective of someone who has had success! Thanks, I am feeling that things are on the way up. I am just keeping is simple as possible.....back on the patience and no expectations mantra. Perhaps will text to morrow to see how the leg is.
Sanderika, I think the paleness is from poor sleep as I am having to lift my neck instead of simply rolling over. I came to H's door with my pen cos I had no expectation of going inside and no thought that he would give me the full guided tour!
Neck sounds painful Cas, please get it checked although as you say the paleness is probably from sleep due to unnaturally lifting your head!
So good to hear that you got an invite to his house, a big little step I too wonder what is in H's "my place" he never calls it home refers to our house as home!
Love the thoughtful dropping off some dinner for him, and letting D take it in so it wasnt too much was a great manouvre, definitely keep it simple, things always work for me when I just keep backed off and things simple!
Will keep checking in to see how your going!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Hi Rabbit and Oz, Not too much to report. thanks for popping in. Went to the physio and there seems to be a problem with my back which in turn is causing the neck problem. I have some exercises to do and then I need to go back to see the physio early next week. He says I really need anti inflammatories but with next lot of surgery coming up I can't take them.
No news re H. I try to vary the contact a little so might contact a couple of days in a row and then not for a few days. My goal was for him to invite me over to his place but didn't expect it to happen so soon and hadn't thought of it coming via a business matter. Anyway, who cares, how it was achieved! I need a new goal!
Had a text fest with H over an hour and a half. I just went back and counted 57 texts! Of course many were yes, no and ok but we covered lots of topics and there was some heckling and fun teasing, too. Again I finished the convo first.
I told him I usually sent texts so I wasn't intrusive but sometimes texting can be confusing for a proper convo so if it was ok with him next time I would text and then if it suited him I would ring. He replied, "Sure"
Sounding good Cas! baby steps for sure, it will be nice to chat on the phone, I really miss hearing H's voice we have been txting and msn'ing a lot but he has a really poor phone signal were he lives so only get to speak to him when he's here. Well hope it carries on gradually moving forward for you! Especially hope your neck and back feel better soon x
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
A week or so ago with the solicitor talk your H was attempting to retreat back into the tunnel, IMO. As we can see he didn't stay long. IMO, your H is liking this new relationship and the new Cas is lovely and intriguing.
Keep it up Cas, it's working....
Your steady emotions and "as if" attitude is a real benefit at this point in time.
Take care, watch after yourself, (((((Cas))))).
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
Cas, that is great! I'm so happy that you had that text stuff with h. I believe things like that are the building blocks. Although, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Let him digest this a little. Well you know the spiel about pursuing etc you know how far to go and how far not to go Cas, I wanted to ask you a few Oz questions. Are you on FB? So, has he dropped the finance stuff now?
I too wonder what is in H's "my place" he never calls it home refers to our house as home!