Detachment

[Deep]

25: BM lives in the same neck of the woods as I do. I encouraged her to come on here to get some advice.

Lost contact with her last few days after hearing that some major developments occurred, including medical test results for both she and the H. I think she's trying hard to deal with the pain and shock still. Obviously the safe route is to detach and take care of herself first, including making sure she is on the right medication. I think she's still very much on the wild emotional rollercoaster and right now one can only pray for her. Last I heard, she has an appointment scheduled with a C that helped me a lot, and I also put her in contact with some folks running the Retro programme.

BM (if you see this), I know part of you REALLY wants to punish your H now, and to see evidence of his pain and remorse. Listen to what 25 posted and focus on taking care of yourself and the kids - as best as you can ... I'm also worried about some of the options you were considering before ...