I am never coming back !!!!!!!!

[25yearsmlc]

Just found out my own daughter is going thru a MLC/WAW dont really know what it is.....nothing out of the ordinary in her life....she keeps saying she has been a Mom and wife since she was 16......
And of course another man is involved......I am in a state of shock.After all she saw me go thru......
Keep her in yall's prayers.
I have told her over and over God first...then family and then job......falling on deaf ears for sure never heard a word I told her....

Maybe she needs to ask herself how SHE will feel if, a decade or so from now, she knows she'll have deeply and perhaps permanently damaged her Rs with the kids AND probably increased their chances of poor M's, low self esteem, commitment and abandonment issues, trust, and basically know that her selfishness will have done irreparable damage to her own children. I believe that if a woman faced this reality, IF, then she'd never for a minute go through with it. Frankly, it is in HER interest not to b/c she'll want to look herself in the mirror or in the eyes of her children and their children and know they see a woman they love, they know, and whom they admire...instead of a woman who deeply disappointed them when they needed her. She won't be able to come back from this the way she thinks. No, They will NOT be "happy for her" if she leaves. (I'm assuming her h is not an ogre, right?) She can rationalize all she wants but she'll be like her dad was to her and you and here she is, repeating a mistake that she knows is a terrible one. Of course she's teaching her kids to carry on the tradition. How does SHE feel about your ex h now? Does she now "get why he left his family"? If not, then she needs to see she's doing the same thing and if she says she now does "get why dad left" then you can tell her she must have inherited the same "rationalization" gene...

good luck -that's a tough sitch. If my son ever pulls something like an MLC I will be on a plane out there to help my DIL...

((( j )))