What to do when H doesn't contact?

[25yearsmlc]

Goodfight,

Didn't I post a truly long post to you on lost41's thread 2 weeks ago? If not, the post there was read by you, and it applies for sure, but if I'm not mistaken, it was a long post from me to you on this very topic....

Pardon me as I don't mean to be an a#$, but please understand that it is frustrating to see you pretty much asking the same stuff when I literally wrote PAGES to you within the past month, and much of it was about how to go dark which Jody the DB coach you have, told you to do?

I mean, What answer are you searching for? The exact words/look/clothes to MAKE HIM COME BACK??? They don't exist. You have no control over your h. Never did...and You have a db coach and will you listen to her or not?, & you are staying stuck and wondering why the sitch won't change...it's b/c You are preventing it. THE good news is that if you Get out of your own way, you'll see some changes in your life. Where the head goes, the heart will follow. Figure this out and do it. Make your life happen and stop focusing on HIM...and re-read the posts so many have written here to you and really take them in. There's good stuff here for you if you'll just do it.
Please read that long post again and Kaini's, and those who's sitch's have improved, or who are just happy now with their lives. Try really hard not to make the same mistakes again. You'll only reinforce his choices and the more you challenge his choices, the more you force him to defend them. Let him figure this out as ONLY HE CAN. You can't fix this for him. You must back off and protect your children by assuming you are on your own. Don't set them up for disappointment in "mean old unreliable dad" b/c the other thing is, the more guilt your h feels the more he'll flee anyhow. No more arguing...please just re-read that long post. I don't want to be so repetitive. The reality is, you are on your own anyhow. Accept that and embrace it.
Make sense?
j-