PLEASE HELP! - About to completely LOSE IT!!!

[aflowergurlie]

Today -

Missed a phone call from H around lunchtime and I was debating on calling him back. He came home for lunch about 30 minutes later and I was home but in my room, so didn't have to call him back. H comes to my room and asks me about helping him a little more with condo short sale paperwork. Never asked me about missing his call / not calling him back. Also asked me with an interested, more happy, upbeat voice about what I was doing? Just replied that I was busy working on getting work. I went to kitchen to get my lunch and went in my room to eat with closed door. H never came back to my room and left a little while later. Haven't heard from H rest of day and night and he hasn't been back home, so I'm pretty sure he won't be home tonight.

Something very, very peculiar happened earlier this evening. We have a home phone at our house. H and I never use it as we both have our cell phones that we use. The only reason we had a land line is that I used to use it for business faxing. Nowadays the only people that call on it are bill collectors and solicitors. Whenever people do call on the land line the caller ID pops up on the tv if tv is on.

Well, tonight at about quarter to nine I was in my room with tv on and caller ID popped up on tv with a female name and a local number I didn't know or recognize. The number also appeared to be a cell number prefix, not a land line prefix. Thinking hmmm to myself. Our land line phone has an answering machine, so I go to the machine and hit play messages. Sure enough, there is a message left from the phone number. Can't believe my ears when I listen. There is a little pause and then a female's voice (20's-30's age sounding) that says "f*** you" in a deliberate tone and then hangs up.

Ok, so I'm trying to narrow down by process of elimination what this could possibly be about:
1) It could have been a wrong number/misdial. Here's what leads me to believe that it wasn't; The outgoing message on answering machine is H's voice only that says "Hi, you've reached (our number). We can't come to the phone but if you leave a message we'll get back to you as soon as possible." He doesn't say our names but says our phone number. If this would have been a misdial or the caller had any question or doubt that they had reached the wrong number, the person would have heard H's voice and heard the phone number recited to them, and I don't think they would have left a message, especially that message. So that would indicate to me that this was indeed the person/phone number they were trying to reach. The only other wrong number message we have gotten that I can recall was about a year ago and it was a little old lady that said "Evidently I have the wrong number, sorry."

2) My mind is swirling with thoughts now; Was this OW trying to get a hold of H? Was OW leaving this message for H because of something happening/happened in their R? Was it intended to come in on land line in attempts that I might come across it as well? Or maybe because H isn't answering cell phone calls/texts? Is this OW or is it someone else, maybe another OW?

3) If this was OW, how would our land line number have been obtained? a) We have a published phone number, listed in all directories, so it could have been looked up. b) Back at end of July I had been gone over a weekend. When I got back I went to clear out the caller ID and check for messages on machine as I do that periodically about once every week or two weeks. On the caller ID was the number to a restaurant in the city that H had started going to/is still going to now that H's bro had taken us to one time before. H had asked me about the fax machine not working the day before that. Putting it together as best I could, someone from that restaurant was trying to send a fax to the landline, and I also guessed that it was more than likely directions to some place as this was pre-GPS that H now has. At the time, I thought it could be H's bro just there at the restaurant, or it could be someone who works there that H had met (more probable). Also, with the pattern that has occurred for months now when OW texts and calls which is normally between 10 - 11 pm, I had figured sometime ago that she is most likely a server/hostess/etc in a restaurant. Also, he is typically gone on a Wed or Thursday night, more than likely, OW's nights off. and tonight is Wednesday. So, if H had given out landline number at that time, it could have been saved by this person as well.

4) The message is still on the machine, I did not erase it or the caller ID. So, do I tell H about the message? If I were to, I think I would casually say "Oh, by the way, I was clearing out the messages on the machine and there was a strange message that was left. If you're interested in listening to it, I left it on the machine so you can play it." ???

Also, I did the reverse cell phone lookup and it is definitely an area cell number, not any type of marketing/bill collector number from the free info it gave me. I didn't pay for the full report. I looked up the name too, but didn't come up with anything on it. That's as far as I want to dig on it. Probably more than I should have allowed myself to do anyways.

My imagination is probably just running away with itself. But given his mood/demeanor change lately and just vibes I've been picking up on, plus all the recent text/phone calls to me, who knows?

Hmmmmmmmmmmm??????

P.S. H got home about an hour ago still in his work clothes. Forgot that he told me last night he took a side job to work on yesterday. I just said "Hey" from my room and he replied with a dull "hey". Then I went out to get some water and passed by office and said "night" H said "good night" with a sullen/annoyed/irritated tone. I went grocery shopping earlier today, so I know it wasn't about not having food in the house, lol. I'm sure he is just really tired and maybe had problems with side job or other work stuff. Not my concern now anyways.