My story begins with a twist...

[TrentC]

Things are good.

She is back in the spare bedroom now that her mother has gone home. I am still in the main bedroom.

The relationship talk has been pushed to the back burner while she recuperates at home. It has come up a few times though, and I've gotten answers to some questions:

1) Why is she uncomfortable sleeping in the same bed as me?
* She says it is because she doesn't want to be in the same bed if we cannot be intimate together, and she is not sure she wants that right now, esp. after our last encounter. She claims to have zero interest in sex.

2) Does she want this relationship to work?
* When she dropped the bomb on me she was pretty much done, but she says now that she wants to give this a chance. (I'm leaving discussions about MC or IC until next week, when she goes back to work.)

So my goals right now are to keep working on GAL (I was at a group bible study tonight: she asked me how it went, and I said it was good and that I think she might enjoy it), working on my 180s, and not pressuring her to talk about the relationship.

We've been able to spend time together doing things -- we went out and shot photos for her photography class, and went and had lunch the other day. No pressure and no expectations.

Here's the weird part...

She says she's worried about being physically intimate with me, but she will let me kiss her. I don't mean a quick "seeya tonight hon" peck on the cheek, and I'm not talking about a make-out session, but I do mean full-contact, lips to lips, 20-second long kissing. I think it's her way of testing the waters to see if she can get comfortable with me again.

One time she did pull away from me, and I did not kiss her good night tonight as she was already in bed when I got home.

I take these as positive signs.