Hi Courtney, I had the same feelings! I could have a man like that, rather than one who acts like my STBXH did!
And no, I wouldnt tell him anything. Or maybe just that you have started to realize that you have an excellent future, dont even mention him! Hell get the hint! You demonstrate that you wont stand for his crap, well, by not standing for it! If he asks if you want to %^&@# and you dont think that its the right thing to do, tell him so, tell him that you dont feel right about it when your M is falling apart. After all, how does ML make you feel later? It made me feel awful to know that it meant nothing to him.
I think that the schedule for DD is a good place to start, and its great that hes respecting it. Maybe he is starting to listen, but now you have the opportunity to decide what kind of M (and future) you want to have, and go for it, and if he is cool enough to buck up and be a H instead of an irresponsible teenage boy in a 33 y/o body then great! If hes not, well then you get to decide whats next!
So I would just keep up with the GALing and maybe even stop all communication that isnt strictly about your daughter. I would pull out the books and get a little refresher!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...