DBD thank you! That was very inspiring. I really appreciated the long post!
You are right, my IC also calls the H like a feral cat. Same as squirrel. No sudden movements. I shouldn't have called. He never called back. But I just did my thing - came home and we had an hour of nice family time with music, jack o lanterns, and dancing. Hoping it stays calm the rest of the night. I'm hoping to just go to bed , or leave if he gets angry.
