WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

cipa,

hope you're doing better today. I've been reading up on your sitch and yes it does suck how much your W has changed. Mine too. Have you ever dropped hints that you were with another woman? What do you think your W would think about that?

Just thinking of other ways to get out of the position you're in.

Stuck,

I've been following your thread but haven't really been able to add much. Relative to "other women", I've been very sensitive to that as that was something she had accusing me of over the last two years. I didn't get it because I had never done anything that would be remotely considered as such nor even considered it. Now I know why as that was what she had been doing, cheating on me.

Anyway, there were a few times where she really "reacted" to situations where she thought I might have found someone else this year. I hadn't nor was I even trying. At one point, she had flat out accused me that I would go find someone as soon as she left me in April this year. At first I thought she was really worried about it, but in hindsight, it was just her projecting onto me.

So I can't really comment on it as while there are some similarities in our situation, there is a key one. Your wife had not had a physical affair. Mine has had multilple. Perhaps we could have worked through one, but I don't have the strength nor desire to work through anything beyond that.

I wish I could offer more than that, but know that you are always in my prayers and I hope your miracle happens.

Take care